Why You'll Never Find Real Success Without Doing DIY Projects

The idea of getting everything you want in life is what motivates many of us.

We want to travel to the most interesting destinations to explore all the world has to offer.

We want to have so much money we can buy our parents a beautiful home to retire in.

We want to be healthy and fit so we can finally see what our bodies look like in their final form.

Unless you're like me and peaked in high school haha.

But seriously, we all want the perfect life.

Yet nearly none of us can seem to attain it.

Today I learned that the problem with our happiness and success in life all comes down to one single thing...

DIY projects.

Everyone should have a DIY project their working on.

DIY projects used to be so icky to me.

You watch some hippie-esque youtuber that quit her job to work on building a swinging bed. But not before she plays you a montage of her making a loose leaf cup of tea.

It felt so fake to me.

Everything isn't rainbows and butterflies. There's so much more to life than you reclaiming a coffee table for the seventh time.

But then I watched a YouTube video about the key to a truly successful relationship.

I was waiting to hear the cliché answers of communication, patience, or saying "I love you" every day.

Instead what I learned was shocking.

Many top psychologists have done research into the key to all great relationships and came to the conclusion of one simple idea.

The idea is called rupture and repair.

Turns out that the key to a perfect relationship isn't having a perfect a relationship.

All things in life deteriorate.

Nothing is forever.

If you don't take the time to maintain and repair, you will never build anything of true value.

In relationships, people break up over big things like your partner having an affair. But many people break up for much less things, such as embarrassing your partner in front of their friends.

In a relationship, all issues are potential point of failure.

So rather than obsess over the specifics, obsess over the process of repair.

Get really good at repairing your relationship and there will be no issue you can't overcome.

That is the key.

And life is no different.

Somewhere along the way we were brainwashed to believe that life could somehow be perfect.

The truth is...it can't.

It won't.

Life is imperfect and that's apart of it's beauty.

But rather than focus on not getting your dream job, find a different way to repair your career.

Rather than crying that you haven't traveled to Thailand, repair your nomad spirit by traveling every inch of your local state.

Rather than fighting your friends and family over the argument from two Thanksgivings ago...

Repair it.

Everyone needs a DIY project to learn the value of restoration.

A beat up car in a junkyard isn't a lost cause. You're just afraid of the exciting journey you'll go on to restore it.

And so every day it sits there because if people don't see perfect, they don't see anything at all.

Don't be the person searching for perfect but finding no value.

There's value all around you.

Find a coffee table, a junk car, or an old painting and reteach yourself the value of repair.

Because when you learn to see value where others don't AND how to "do it yourself"...

Then you'll really unlock a whole new level of power.

And your happiness won't be attached to finding perfect, but rather finding purp...

In progress,

Tim